I'm going to request that W and stepson both work full-time so that they can contribute to household bills. W has worked ~ 20 hours a week during our whole marriage, and stepson just lost his job due to meth addiction.
I don't mean to sound sarcastic, but why do you think either of them would work now----knowing a D is in the making, when they would not previously contribute to household bills? I suppose I am asking why it would matter to them that you request it?
I submit that you don't know what else to do (as a man who has NGS), therefore, you "ask" them again......expecting different results. What do you think would happen if you only paid a third of the bills? Or, maybe I should ask, what would happen if you did not engage in the argument that would follow.
FWIW, I feel badly for you. I think there are many, many M stitches similar to yours. If a D should go through, I truly hope you will take away a few hard learned lessons about the NGS.
You sound like a good person, and I'm sure you will have no problem finding another woman to M, if that's what you want. But seriously, please study about the NGS from the original author, so as to learn how to overcome some of the issues that will continue to cause you problems in the future.
I hope you'll finish the DR book soon.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
