Hey LH.....thanks man! I agree, the pit in my stomach gets a little less each time I take a new step in the process. I am looking forward to this being over with as well. I don't worry about nearly as much as I used to. I am now starting to think about what it will feel like when I finally see her with OM and he meets my kids. I hope I am so far detached by that point it won't even matter but something tells me no matter what it will probably sting a bit.
I am also starting to entertain the thoughts of meeting other women as well. I am not 100% ready yet but hopefully after a few months I will feel confident enough and detached enough from my STBXW to put myself out there a little bit. Not a huge priority so we shall see.
Telling your kids will be a rough family moment. I still remember when we did it and our kids crying and all of us hugging. I remember when we sat them down my oldest thought we were going to tell them what our vacation plans where. It impacted my 6 yr old more than my 8 yr old and while I hate that we are no longer a family they are happy and well adjusted so I know that is most important.
Ah yes, the newbies. What an awful time in my life and there is nothing you can do to take away the pain. All you want is some answers and most of us will never get them. I remember clinging on to every word, every interaction and you/ACC were right it was about the loss of control. I was a pretty strict DBer and while it didn't save my MR I know it saved me and helped me heal/detach etc. in a more timely manner. Sometimes I feel like this place is the Walking Dead and they just keep coming. I have had to step away for a while because it becomes too depressing at times.
I am happy for you that your feeling good and looking forward to your new life. I bet you are feeling some relief and hopefully excitement as you move on to your next adventure. You have made tremendous progress yourself my friend and should proud of yourself and how far you have come. Life is a journey full of twists and turns, ups and downs, good times and bad times and this to shall pass.
So what did you decide about letting your W stay in the house? any timeline?
