H has me so confused. For weeks he was telling me focus on myself. He finally said straight out to me that some of the things I was doing (which also happened to be some of the things he's been asking for for years- compliments, telling him what I love about him- basically Words of Affirmation) was pushing him away. Something clicked last week, maybe reading this forum, so I started detaching. Which then led H to think that I'm done with the marriage, which pushes him away even more. Now I'm trying to find the happy medium between the 2. No matter what I'm doing, it just feels like the wrong thing.
