You can keep the door cracked. When she is ready she will come. As long as you are not mean and cold, she will know you haven't closed her off. Don't go rushing back in or asked her any questions about the R or M. Let her come to you. She has to choose you. When she hits bottom she will she where the safe landing spot is. And that is you.
Keep doing what you are doing and stay the course, be calm and live your life.
M:37 W:37 T:11 M:10 S17, S13, S10, S4 BD:06/28/17 OM confirmed 07/20/17 Recon the M 10/29/17 Working hard:2gether
Onward and forward
This process is not a sprint it's a marathon! Patience, Patience, Patience.