Hey mom4,I’m sorry for your sitch. I can give you a couple of things from a male perspective. One is that he seems to be a good provider. Do not, I repeat do not underestimate the power of acknowledging that. Death and life are in the power of the tongue. By sincerely recognizing this you have the ability to give him courage to go and conquer a small army. As men, we need this, especially from our wives. It makes us fearless. And I think it also explains the motorcyle, and other stuff as well, too. It seems to me, he wants to be a good father. It’s in his DNA, so make it his strength.
In addition, as it seems there is some financial pressures. It seems your helping with this. Keep it up. As men we sometimes feel like failures when we don’t do enough for our families,and it’s hard on our ego.
The other thing I would think about is again what can you change about YOU? What is his dynamic with the kids? Do you do family things together?
Also, I would suggest you read the marriage map! I wish someone would have showed me this 10years ago. Could have save me a lot of of pain.
Be encouraged, don’t give up on your H. At some point he will catch a clue.
