Husband gone for second time - 3

[Joe2017]

Nicole... Do not compare yourself to others. I am in a divorce class now, and there are people there that are still stuck in the past,15 years after their D. You're light years ahead of a lot of people. You are moving forward and looking out for your little girl. Yes, this is a crap situation for you. No way around it. Just like everything else, you have to make the most of it.

Don't worry about your bad days, just live them out. They come and go. You will recover from this heartbreak. I wish I could stop dreaming about my W but some things we can't control. Focus on what you can change. Nicole, you were over in the sandbox! You got through that! You'll get through this battlefield too!!!

I'm sorry you don't have a lot of immediate support where you are. Neither do I for the most part. I think it's important for you to keep posting. We are all here to help each other. I know I'd be seriously messed up now if it wasn't for these forums.

Earlier you said DB does not work. Well, maybe not towards recon in every sitch. That's true. But DB is as much about recovering YOURSELF and making your life the best it can be despite the bullsht. I have started to love myself again through DB. I now look at my WW from the perspective of pity and pure "WTF"... What kind of idiot would leave ME? Just like why the hell would someone leave YOU!?!?

Nicole, you are stronger than you think and you don't need a husband to be a mother. Your daughter is going to be great. She will be fine without him around every day... Maybe even better without him! Who the hell says you should have aborted his own daughter?!?????! Remember that!!!!