Oh boy...where to start. Happily married for 9 years. H expressed some discontentment over the house (wants big one and doesn’t feel like I clean well enough) and children (he only wanted 3) and financial situation (wants me to work full time out of the house) BUT as far as I knew we were perfect together.
Then out of nowhere I discover EA with a women he has worked with for 14 years. She was at our wedding, in our lives, etc but h told me she was having affair with the boss at their job. He never seemed out of the ordinary fond of her but they were friends. Anyhow, BD - I love you but I’m not in love with you - about two years ago. Devastated I did everything they say not to do. He beings to spew, hate darts fly from his eyes all summer long although we are on a rollercoaster ride. He still wants sex, but basically spews at me on most days. I discover PA. He softens a little but PA partner pushes him to leave. He decides he is leaving but never does. Affair continues as does the rollercoaster ride. I think it ended sometime over the past few months although they still work together. He isn’t leaving here but shows no affection except on the nights he wants sex. He is on the couch for months and months.
I have stopped texting him. I have stopped telling him I love him. I have stopped saying much to him. It’s peaceful here.
180s- *the house is now cleaned (a lot of this has to do with the 3 oldest kids are in school now) *i babysit a little boy all day (daughter isn’t in school yet) making decent money *i work some nights and weekends for a tax accountant making some money *i try to declutter, throw and give old toys and stuff away.
There’s so much more but this is the short of it......
