Yes, it's so unfair. It's so hard to believe 40 - 50% of marriages end in divorce because I barely know anyone who's divorced and the few that I know seem to think their lives are better. It doesn't feel like that when you've been abandoned. It's good that you're kind of accepted that this is how it is.
As someone who's about to be on the other side of the D fence, I think about this a lot. I used to view D'd people as trying to prove their lives were better after D - working out, finding new confidence, getting a new look. I thought it was pathetic, since they obviously had no sense of self.
Now with my own experience (which includes being abandoned), I see how D'd people can act this way. We're horribly broken, and it really feels like a death. The only way forward is through a kind of rebirth. To put it simply, it's making the most of a cr@ppy situation.
Me-47,XW-43 S13,S16 M:18 BD:4-23-17 W filed:7-17-17 (5 months of in-house separation hell) W moved out:1-6-18 D granted:2-15-18 Decree signed:3-29-18
