Jim, at least you've done self reflection and you saw your mistakes. When you decide to date again your changes will definitely help in the next relationship and some other lucky lady will appreciate you.
Yes, it's so unfair. It's so hard to believe 40 - 50% of marriages end in divorce because I barely know anyone who's divorced and the few that I know seem to think their lives are better. It doesn't feel like that when you've been abandoned. It's good that you're kind of accepted that this is how it is.
