Wow, this is truly fabulous!! Good going!! Sounds like a great path to carry on going along
And about your meet up with Witty, from the outside, for someone to tell you all that stuff about themselves straight away...well, I think that would set alarm bells ringing for me.
The guy I date for a bit in 2016 (the one that was the heavy drinker), the first time I met him, he told me pretty much straight away about his wife having died a number of years previously. He was actually wearing his wedding ring on the third finger of the right hand, and said to me something along the lines of 'I guess you're wondering about this', pointing to the ring.
To be honest, I had noticed, but I would never in a million years have asked about it. And not the second or third time we had met either.
Anyway since he had brought it up I asked if she'd been ill, and he said 'sort of'. I understood straight away that it meant that she'd died by suicide after some sort of mental illness.
At the time, I took it all to mean that here was someone who was OK with talking about difficult things/experiences/feelings in life. Especially seeing as my XH had stonewalled me for years and never really talked about his feelings.
Now I think it felt like there was an element of manipulation on his part: a big, tall, strapping man the poor victim of circumstance.
Yes, he was in a way the victim of circumstance. But he didn't have to tell me all of that stuff the first time we met, after not that long either.
I think I'm much more comfortable when someone reveals themselves slowly now. I don't need to know everything straight away. And I can read between the lines...get to our age, and obviously someone has lived a bit of life, ya know?
