What does emotionally unavailable mean to you? Like how were you emotionally unavailable? Is it the same as detached?
For me, it came out as being unable to share my feelings and communicate with XW. I would go silent for a few days or a week. I would make unilateral decisions without her input. I was unable to realize the few times she did reach out to me. Being detached can be taken a lot of different ways, but for me it was mostly just not feeling comfortable "letting her in" to my inner world.
Now, me reading into being emotionally unavailable happened RIGHT after BD, when I believed the M was failing mostly because of me. At this point, I'm not sure what faults were mine, and which ones XW was gaslighting me with.
Revisiting this topic has made me realize XW may have been even more EU than me.
Me-47,XW-43 S13,S16 M:18 BD:4-23-17 W filed:7-17-17 (5 months of in-house separation hell) W moved out:1-6-18 D granted:2-15-18 Decree signed:3-29-18
