Firstly can I ask if an OP has been confirmed? I see a possible EA is this still the case..?
“If you decide to 180, or go dark, or make any significant change.... What is your response when your spouse calls you out on acting differently???” < Look into Sandi’s “rule” No.17. In fact re-read them all...
17. You need to make your partner think that you have had an awakening and, as far as you are concerned, you are going to move on with your life, with or without your spouse.
I don’t think there are specific things you can say it’s down to your understanding of your W you know her best! < No mention of DR that’s for you only…
Re-read the validation thread from Cadet, look into “charge neutral” and stay cool, calm and classy. Key is to be consistent and remember you do DR’ing for you NOT as some kind of tactic to win her back she’ll see straight through it.
You know not to pursue LET HER DO THIS then when she does (and she will) be smart, civil and confident with a smile on your face always knowing that you’re in control of your future and that of your children.
Enjoy the time, let her do all the work have a good PMA and stick to your boundaries.
You’ve got this don’t stress about something you can’t control it’s not worth the mental anguish.
Mark.
DR'ing started March 2017
Don't blow the last bridge up from fantasy island, act "as if".
