My motivation at the moment of writing this was coming from getting revenge, and putting OM and WW on the hot seat. [color:#3366FF][/color]
Are you in a fault state? If so INTEL is vital for your D. Your L will need it.
No we are in a no fault state.
Are you still having sex? If so condoms are needed.
No sex, I won’t play second fiddle.
I make no judgement on it at all.
It appears to me you know she is wayward and you know with whom. So all you are doing is picking at your own scab. And of course hard evidence and challenge will just harden the waywards entitlement. Shame or guilt or an attempt to create it is seen as control and manipulation by a wayward who wants to do as they please. It sends them deeper into their A. And much as you and I don't like scuzzy behaviour, the wayward is perfectly entitled to drop their knickers for any grot bag they please and they truly do affair down.
The strongest stance is "I am not putting up with being treated this way and honey bunch I am not going to be with a wayward. For I am a man only a fool would leave and you hot lips are an idiot."
And go use Sandi rules and concentrate on you. This process is about you becoming and growing and possibly having a new R with or without WW.
This isn't about OM it's about the junk going on in her wayward entitled noggin. Scrambled eggs for brains.
Concentrating on proof, when it will become clear in due course is distracting you from you. Preventing you from being detached and concentrating on you.
