WW, A ended, but struggling to reconnect (My 11th)

[sandi2]

Sorry for the delay. I have carpal tunnel in my hands, and it got so bad that I couldn't type.

I had been going to give her a weekend away at a ski lodge for V-Day, but hadn't thought about what to actually do on the day, go out or whatever.

I like the gift idea for V-Day....except for one thing that seems to be missing. When you say give her a weekend away, it sounds as if you mean without you. If it is going to be a V-Day gift and she'll be going to some romantic location, you need to go with her.

Could also just surprise her but she doesn't "surprise" very well. Likes to be given the chance to pretty up and put on clothes she thinks look good on her.

Me too! I like surprises......not just last minute ones, where I don't have time to get dolled up. My history of surprising others (anniversary, birthday, etc., where a lot of people are involved) is that an important ingredient of the enjoyment is the anticipation. Giving them the surprise news in time for them to prepare is smart, especially for a woman......or else risk a let down in her reaction. Just putting it out there for anyone planning a special surprise party for someone.

I gave my grandparents a surprise anniversary party, and when they walked into the room and saw all the people gathered, I thought my grandfather was going to have a heart attack. Several years later I gave my aging father a big birthday party, but after the previous experience, I did not try to surprise him and told him in advance. He was excited and I saw how the anticipation actually extended the enjoyment I wanted him to have. Not that this applies to your W by any means, but maybe my experience will help someone else who is planning a big surprise for a loved one in their family.

I will try to overhaul my long post today, if my hands can hold out. Not that I said anything profound, but for some reason....I am having trouble shortening the length.