I am from divorce family myself. In my parents case my mom had to protect the kids and herself. Still there has always been a hole inside me. Even if I know it was the best decision for my mom and us kids.
In our case there is no clear reason. We had family trips a couple of weeks prior to W telling she's going to leave and she was all happy with me and the kids. Then all of a sudden she stopped talking to me and then moved out. How this will impact the kids even if we would end up in recon? Not well I suppose.
Me:39 W:36 S:12 D:9 T:14 M:11 Separation:sep. 1 2017 D filed oct. 2017 D finalized july 2018 OM confirmed feb 2018 D finalized July 2018
The fact is this. You have to be in pain before you can learn.