Husband gone for second time - 3

[Jim1234]

Nicole, I noticed a few things in your post. First of all, your tone is far more positive. Secondly, you no longer sound desperate. While missing the past, you are also thinking about the future, and steps YOU need to take to improve YOUR future, whether it includes him, or not. It also sounds like some of the luster has worn off, and he's seeing the reality he's created. These are all really good.

As far as everyone appearing to have the perfect married life, you know that's not true, right? A good portion of those "happy people" have big problems. Their problems are just different than yours. All I'm saying is don't compare your situation to the illusion you've created in your head. That's not fair to you.