JuJuB and JellyB, I really enjoy reading the discussions between the 2 of you. There's some great reflection and advice in here.
In going through my own D, I realized I was emotionally unavailable (though my XW was too). I don't think that's who I initially was, but it's who I became in the M. My IC gave me a great book on it by Patti Henry. There's a section for women that also helps them examine why they're attracted to emotionally unavailable men. I wanted so hard to work on it, but this was after BD and my XW was having none of it. At least I've learned I can open up to others about my D, and work on my emotions more in that respect.
Thanks. Am gonna look one up. What does emotionally unavailable mean to you? Like how were you emotionally unavailable? Is it the same as detached?
