I never listen to her, how I always do whatever I want to do and she never has a voice in any important decision that is made.
Look at that language -- is she an adult or a petulant teenager? Do you really *never* listen to her? Do you *always* do whatever you want to do? Does she *never* have a voice in any important decision?
If you want an interpretation, here it is: when people break up a family relationship, particularly when they're having an affair, they feel horribly guilty.
No one likes to think of themselves as a bad person, so eventually they begin to convince themselves it's not their fault. If it's not their fault, then someone made them do it.
The only other person in the relationship is you, so YOU must have made them do it. Then they selectively start looking for any evidence to support what they want to believe, and re-write history to line up with their narrative.
It's nonsense. Don't buy into it. Your response to that tantrum should be to ignore it.
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Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11 Start Reconcile: 8/15/11 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced) In a New Relationship: 3/2015
