You are a dad and kids always come first. Every time.
There are many ways of approaching parenting, I fostered for a long time and thus have trod the difficult path of including warring parents.
If the two of you put your kids first then you caneed co-parent. That means together. If not then you are parallel parenting. Each of you doing that which is needed on your own dime.
Other parents here canow guide you better. My view is kids come first always.
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Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW