Firstly the easy topic, posting to Newbies. Posting when you are slightly further down the line is VERY helpful TO Newbies. You have the benefit of raw experience and can comfort. Especially if the posters sitch resonates with you. This will also benefit you too, it helps put your own thoughts in order and I can say from personal experience is vital in healing. Any miss thoughts and others will post, it's also good to know that others have similar analysis. This is very different from posting to your tribe who travel in real time with you.
Secondly dating, my thoughts are not to date too soon. Really it's not ready time, it takes a minimum of one month for each of the R to recover. Any decent partner won't be interested in an unrecovered rebound R anyway. You can leave a devastation and such R often don't work out. The other risk is that you pick the same sort of person again. To do so can be unhealthy if there has been no IC. An abuse recovery journey is slow, much slower than other journeys. And this will really confuse your kids. Someone cool with casual dating would ring bells and fly red flags to me.
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Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
