The two of you are no where near detachment it takes a lot of time. Full detachment is obtained when you get to a place where you realize that you can’t control the other person you accept their decisions to move on and your ok with it. Nothing they do effects you. You are ok with the uncertainty in your life.
I can’t find PEWs thread I must have screen name wrong but the bottom line is he turned a blind eye to his Ws A and as far as I know a year later he is still suffering immensely.
In 3.5 years on here I have never seen anyone nice there way back. Those texts you saw are enough proof for me.
