Well I got a bit of a surprise last night. First a bit of back story, 20 years ago I was seeing a girl, we were teenagers. Anyway, one day a friend and I were walking along a foot path when we saw her walking with my my other mate, she was supposed to be out of town. I confronted them and she promptly left me for him. We were in the same social circles so it made it very awkward. We were young so I wouldn’t say I was in love from memory, but it hurt.
So, fast forward 20 years and she pops up on a dating app as being interested in me. I messaged her to say you do realise who this is don’t you. She said yes, you look the same as I remember you, I was just thinking of you the other day. She went on to say she’s had 4 kids, a fairly long marriage to an abusive bully and her life is completely messed up, says she doesn’t know why everyone else is so happy, and she must have messed up in the past and that she’s changed a lot since we were together.
Well, it took 20 years, but the karma bus was active on her life this whole time. It’s strange as I remember thinking at the time that I could never have done what she did, we were young but I still had morals. I simply said to her, life has a way of rewarding good people.
Maybe it’ll take 20 years for my STBXW to say sorry, but this just reinforces that they’re lives are not going well, and it’s the mentality of the cheater that is wrong, nothing to do with us.
