hoosjim, been following along with great interest. I am asking myself some of the same questions right now regarding dating. I feel like maybe I should be more assertive and plan a date, but I'm on the fence because I'm not sure she actually WANTS to. But maybe she would if I did? I tried to plan a date, but I asked her to dinner and it was rescheduled until it didn't happen. I didn't tell her to get ready and pick out a dress for her and have a limo waiting. Maybe she would like that?
Sorry, didn't mean to hijack your thread...just feeling your pain a little.