WW, A ended, but struggling to reconnect (My 11th)

[hoosjim]

But I think you need to take your W out on a real date, not to your local watering hole every weekend like you would with your buddies. Yes, you both may enjoy it, but you enjoy it in the friend zone.

This makes sense. Almost to the point it worries me: "Could it be that obvious?"

TBH, if I am the "courtin' Hoosjim", Im making a reservation at a cozy little café in "Old Town" where she's always wanted to go but never has, arranging for her to have the day off on 2/15 (I know and am friendly with a couple of girls she works with, the doctor she works for, and the practice manager, and the practice owner... heck, I know most of them by now-- so it would be pretty easy for me to confirm if that would not be too disruptive and have them arrange for someone to cover for her) so we can stay out late, etc etc. and then telling her "be ready cause we're going out" and thentaking her out on V-Day. Could also just surprise her but she doesn't "surprise" very well. Likes to be given the chance to pretty up and put on clothes she thinks look good on her. Limo ride would be a nice end to such an evening-- we live in a very scenic city-- but doubt I could arrange that for V-Day at this point. (Potential drawback here is that she's already taking the following Wed off for MC/IC and might disrupt her very busy workplace and put some extra stress on her when she goes back)

Another option would just be to do something similar on this next weekend (not this one starting right now--im still getting over a wicked bad cold and she just started getting it. I'm currently on Day 8 of the damned thing.) Though she is going out with two GFs after work to see the "50 shades" movie (rolls eyes.)

Those pretty much the most likely dates coming up. Weekend after VD prolly out due to college visit for S2. Weekend after that would be the ski weekend if I do it.

Point is , I can do that kind of thing, just trying to think of the most effective way, tactically. Because, lets face it, if I am dating her again, tactics matter