To speak to what Sandi said regarding men in the more traditional role and being the pursuers and the "man" so to speak, I can say it is very true. And I am a liberated woman, lol. It seems as if you let her do most of the chasing and were the submissive one and then everything kind of ceased. I, personally, have been on my own since young. Paid my bills, worked, and then after divorce did everything on my own. I make all the decisions. I handled the bills, phone calls, ect. in the marriage. I don't "need" a man. But I very much appreciate a man who knows I can handles things, but still is the "man" in the relationship. Pursues me, is decisive, initiates. Makes plans. Fixes things. Carries heavy stuff. There has to be some passion.
I have an idea, and if anyone thinks I am off on this, please chime in. You need to change things up. The same bar/band thing every weekend. Take a break from that. Take the initiative and book a fancy resturaunt. Tell her to be ready at a certain time. Heck, even pick out an outfit for her. Get a limo with champagne. DO something where you take control, make her feel special, it's just the two of you without big crowds and music. Table the heavy relationship talk.
