Rebuilding my life (ILYBNILWY? IDGAF 2)

[Holding]

East, the text exchange tells me she's trying to control you. Something useful that Acc (I think) posted to me a while ago:

You Feel........They Feel
Irritated..........Need for attention
Insufficient......Insufficient, desire to prove their value
Powerless........Powerless, desire to gain control
Hurt or Angry...Vindictive, desire for revenge

The familywizard that V recommends is what my XW and I use. It can provide some structure, but it may not be helpful if your XW flat out refuses to use it, or just uses it as a different platform for her attacks. It's not free, but the advantage is that it can be reviewed by the courts or other professionals.