It is so valuable to take the time to look at your situation through a beginner's eye --> what values are important to you for a W, what ways should you act in a M, what does being married mean to you, etc, etc. Then, you get really set goals to help you grow. Not just
K....what A said is here is spot on. When I took this approach with my W it helped me realize my W had changed and what I wanted and valued in a MR my W was currently unable to provide. I have young kids so I was definitely willing to work on it with her but the point is this should help you grow, detach and gain confidence knowing that there are things you would want to be different as well if she returned to the MR. That maybe your spouse was not as good of a W as you really thought she was.
