what is there you need to discuss at the moment? You say that you are worried that she will slip farther away -- how much farther is there?
Her grabbing the green folder with the papers in it from where its been sitting for the last 3 months. That's my biggest fear right now. With that, I feel like every day that goes by that the papers just sit there... is a minuscule step forward for me.
Here is a great example of something that plagued me for a day and a half...
Our S7 came home with an adorable note from a girl in his class. W knows about the first one, I didnt tell her about this one. I asked my S if he'd like help in spelling some words to write back to her, which he said yes.
Today once he got home from school there was the third note from this girl, and on the back of one of my S papers, was this girls name written a bunch of times in my S handwriting.
So clearly our first venture in to 'feelings' or what you want to call it, because he is our oldest. We both found it adorable when we discovered the first note from the girl. My W even made a joke in front of me, to my S, about how to 'not' talk to a girl( while she looked at me in that smirk, because she was referring to me being cocky to her, which was our first interaction). I have seen a few mentions of going back to how you first were, when you first got together. And this happening to our oldest S, just brought up some good memories, atleast for the moment between us. I saw that type of smile I hadn't seen in months. I'm sure you know what I'm talking about.
So for the past 2 days or so I have been struggling with this. Do I share this with her (she has had zero interaction with the kids in 2 days or so) or do I keep it to myself.
I look to the future where we talk and I fill her in on something like this, and other milestones our small children are meeting.
I can't decide if I want to use these as a talking point and a reason to talk to W... Or something to keep to myself with the hopes that when she is told later down the road... she realizes what she's missing when she hears about all the kids growth...after its happened.
I received DR in the mail yesterday and finished it today. I want to read through certain parts again tomorrow but I found a great deal of clarity and strength in certain parts. Particularly the LRT, 180 and 'acting as if'.
I feel like I should be doing bits of each of those, but wonder if that is too much
