What can she do to you at this point? Take you back to court, get full custody, sue you? Think about why you're afraid. Run each scenario through your mind. And the hardest part ... try to come to terms with each scenario and accept it.
What she can do isn't what scares me (though frankly "unknown future" is scary) it's just the anger. And this is my life:
I get to school at 5:45 to pick up D. Her friend's dad gets there just after me, and she and D play out in the parking lot together. It's pretty cute, and we get in the truck around 6:00. XW texts me "do you have D yet?" and I don't respond.
As we're getting in the truck, the phone rings. I tell D it's mommy, do you want to talk? She says no. After the call goes to voicemail, XW calls back again. I'm driving at this point, so I don't read the texts until later. XW calls a grand total of 20 times between 5:59pm and 6:22. Here are the texts:
XW: "Do you have D yet?"
XW: "Well you aint answering the phone and you ain't texting back! I'd like to talk to D"
XW: "You're just picking her up or just getting home. I'd like to talk to D now thanks"
XW: "I'd like to talk to D"
XW: "I know you see this and are sending me to voicemail"
XW: "Hello!?"
XW: "Hello!?"
XW: "You have D I want to talk to her!"
XW: "I am her mother you can not and will not keep her from me!"
At this point I am out of the car at home so I respond: "We just got home. She was playing with her friend when you started ringing the phone off the hook. She said she did not want to talk. I am trying to encourage her to talk to you but the phone ringing off the hook is upsetting her. Please stop calling. I will ask her at bedtime if she wants to call and will try to get her to."
XW: "I can't stand you"
XW: "Well I'm coming by then since she is outside playing"
XW: "You can't just hand her the phone!? You are supposed to be the parent right now. It's dark out so I know she isn't out right now. I don't know why you are lying."
XW: "Hello"
XW: "I'd like to talk to her before she started homework and ate"
XW: "Hello"
XW: "Let me talk to her!!!"
XW: "Hello"
XW: "That's ok EastTN. You c am do me like this now but you won't be able to I promise you that!"
There's a voicemail in the middle of all of this, dripping with sarcasm. "Uhh, it's dark outside so I doubt very seriously that D is still out because I know you would have her in already doing homework and getting her ready for a bath--if you was to give her one. If you could, have her call me back, I would really appreciate it. Thanks."
I'm reading what I just wrote, and... yeah. It's hard not to be afraid of someone like this.
