I feel like I'm sensing a lot of jealousy from your XW. I don't know if it's jealousy of your R with D7, or jealously of your R with your GF, or both, or even something else.
i think XW is super-controlling... and it is more than she can take that she has no control over D when she is with East... and she cannot as easily control East now that they are not together... so she tries to control him by her nasty comments and accusations regarding new toys--etc., etc.,... hoping he will cave because he IS a nice guy... the phone calls are all about control... controlling D, and even how D sounds over the phone... and controlling East with the phone calls... she is trying really hard to hold on to something, to hold on to D... but what she is doing is really taking steps toward alienating D...
she accuses East of coming between D and XW's relationship... accusing him of doing things that make D not want to talk to XW... yet, she is the one planting thoughts in D's mind... D told East that he is selfish... her mommy said so... many WW spouses seem to lack mirrors...
and Holding, i think you are right about the jealousy... i see it too...
