If you aren't detached, albeit from home with her, with her gone, or thoughts of you being gone making it easier... You are mistaken...
That makes sense, it seems like if one of us were not around it would be easier to move on, but I realize that's unrealistic.
Originally Posted By: Mach1
From what I have read from you, I get the feeling that you are doing these things in the name of DBing, and still looking over your shoulder to see if she is watching, or if they are affecting her.
I won't argue that. I realize I am doing this and recognize that a change is needed if I'm to get better. I want to, just not been good at it thus far. I feel like I get close to the right mindset, and then something will happen to suck me back in. I'll keep at it...
Originally Posted By: Mach1
Find something, anything, that is just for you.. What are you passionate about, other than your situation ??? Are you willing to sell yourself, just to be able to say that you are married ??
It has been a while since I have felt passionate about anything. don't really feel much passion for the things I used to be interested in. I've tried picking up a few new things, but nothing seems to hold my interest much. I think I am having an issue allowing myself to become too interested in anything and i think that is more of an issue with my mindset more than it is with finding something I'm interested in. I won't give up as I know and understand the recipe for detaching/GAL, just have an issue with implementation. I know I can get there eventually, just wish there was a button I could push that would detach me from my situation.
Thank you Gordie and Mach for helping me along. Some days I need it more than others...this week has been one for needing a supportive ear that can give advice and 2x4's if needed. I hope I can help others at some point as much as you guys help me.
