Re - talking about other women. My XH started complaining to me about OW and how she treated him in the months after BD. I said to him - H, I am your W, please don't complain to me about how your girlfriend is treating you. He never did that again.

Boundaries are critical with the MLCer.

Please don't feel disheartened by the direction things are taking. We can't really measure progress in small increments of time. It is best to haul your focus off of him and invest in rebuilding your own life independent of what he may do.

That doesn't mean being closed to reconciliation, just not focusing on him and watching for signs...

Xx

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus