Living in the Present, only Looking Forward

[Coconut]

haha, Surviving the Big D, flirting, Innuendos and Hook-ups.. now that's living. Best OLD site around

Anyway, I agree I have choices and I will just have to decide how I want to move forward for me. My biggest concern is not knowing if I'm helping her or hurting her in the long run.. She's still pretty new into the separation, and she's still married, so there is that.

Anyway, found out that she found out about the first A little over 12 yrs ago, right before her twins were born, and knows of 6 A total, but is pretty sure there were more. She's been a SAHM for 15 yrs, has 3 kids living with her (1 from previous R), and it was tough for her to leave and go out on her own. So she's fighting to "get away", luckily she is getting help from the grandparents of her older child, which is the only way she's been able to start this journey.

So thoughts on if her being attracted to me, flirting with me, is beneficial or hurtful to her. I have NO intention of making a R out of this (or physical), for at least a year or until D, so I will continue to keep my eyes open for a R with others.

For her, I know that in the here and now it makes you feel good (I was in a similar sitch early in my separation), but I stopped it because she was M and I knew it was inappropriate for us to feel that way about each other.