New LBS - need advice

[apothem]

Hey everyone,

I need a little advice. My mom suggested that I continue to keep conversation light with my W and to let her initiate, but some time in the future, depending on how everything feels, that I let my W know that I'm sorry for not listening to her concerns over the last few months and that I should been more attentive. My W did mention to me once we got full custody of my son how hard everything is and that she's really struggling. Sadly, I ignored her calls for help.

I told my mom that goes against DR, but she insists that based off what she knows of my W (they were close), my W would appreciate that. I'm not so sure it would be a good thing to ask for forgiveness or apologize because I feel it would stir those memories for her again. For what it's worth, my mom went through a divorce too and said she would have appreciated something like that. Granted, I know everyone situation is unique.

I know I'm supposed to let my W initiate, not talk about the relationship or future, let her talk about her emotions and validate her, and for me to only talk about myself if she asks and to keep it brief.