Quote: I just want to wake up in the morning and if I feel horny I want to be able to communicate that to my W and for her to appreciate it and respond positively. Similarly if she were ever to wake up horny I want to think that she would convey that to me so I can bask in the sheer glory and delight of feeling loved. Is that too much to ask.
No, that's not too much to ask, if the emotional connection and intimacy are there. It's GETTING to the EC and intimacy that's the difficulty.
Quote: Why do we have to read these complicated books that quite frankly I don't understand ...
So we can understand the PROCESS of getting to the EC and intimacy.
Quote: ...then jump through hoops in the hope that LDW becomes HDW before we're in our deathbeds.
It's not about jumping through hoops. It's about self-discovery and exploring your potential. It's also about understanding Marriage as a people-growing process, and how to "use" your "marital difficulties" to further growth, emotional connection, and intimacy with your partner.
