Soon to be LBS - need advice

[Gordie]

I hate to be the first one to say this but it sounds like there is a very strong possibility your w is having an affair. Going out all the time without you is the first clue. Her wayward, me-first attitude and change of personality is the second. Wanting to see the kids at your place is the third (easier to have a private place for hookups without H coming to drop off kids or kids finding evidence of OM).