Vapo, thanks for the advice, as always. D didn't want to call her mom again this morning. I asked if you wanted to send a voice text on imessage and she said yes. She was happy and excited. We're driving to school and XW calls back. D doesn't want to talk, she's just staying silent. XW is asking why she won't talk, and I can hear the irritation in her voice. I try to gently explain that she just doesn't want to talk to this morning, and XW nastily says, "What toy is she playing with? Because I know that's why she won't talk" I explain that there is no toy, and D is just sitting quietly in her car seat, and that we do not need to have conversations like this in front of her. "Whatever" I ask D to tell mommy she loves her and goodbye, she does, and XW starts trying to talk to her again. D is silent. I tell XW we're going to go, and she hangs up.
D tells me I should just hang up next time, and asked me if I didn't understand what she was saying. So, yeah, my seven year old is chastising me for not ending the interaction, and she's absolutely right about it.
I get a text, "I don't know what you've said or done but she's never acted like that toward me. I do not appreciate what it is you've said to her or done to her. You can sit there and say you haven't done anything but the truth will be told one day!" After what happened on Friday, I'm not ever responding to one of these texts again.
Mark, no worries about being baited into R conversations. Ever. Not what I want, not ever going there. I've been put through hell over the last year, and today, outside of the stress that XW induces, I really enjoy my life, and have no desire to change anything about it, except having more time with both D and GF in the future. If D EVER wants to call her mom, I just hand her the phone. Time of day or night doesn't matter. XW and I had agreed to a general schedule for calls, but that isn't working for D at this point.
