Yes, you incredibly too accommodating. You have that Mr. Nice Guy thing in total full force and you have to fix everything. Your relationship began on rescuing her, being the superhero, coming in and taking care of her and her newborn daughter..... Well, thank God you rescued your daughter:).

Posters have asked what the status of the custody thing is. Where are you at, you haven't quite answered. That seriously needs to be taken care of.

And please please please stop the phone call thing. It's not for the benefit of your D. It's only hurting her. I have been doing this coparenting, divorced parenting thing for her whole life and never ever did that. We were recommended AGAINST that. Unless she asked, when she was old enough too, his time was his, and my time was mine. And she is quite a well adjusted 10 year old. She has her own phone now and some weekends she calls me non-stop and others and she doesn't call at all. Maybe a text here and there. But I rarely initiate unless I need to.

I think you fear her reaction if you do that. But in the sense that she will make YOU feel bad. Your going to have to find a way to get over that. She is not playing with a full deck, has been alienating and pretty much a bad parent. Because you don't comply with her and you find your b@lls, doesn't make you a bad guy if she doesn't like it.

Every move you make, simply consider your daughter and no one else. No matter what her reaction is on that, if she calls you a bad dad or whatever, you know you are not and are doing what is in the best interest of child. Your ex snaps when it isn't in her best interest of herself. You know that. She only cares about herself.

Mark,

Those scheduled calls is ALOT for young kids to adhere to. Kids want to be kids and they should get to be. Scheduling a call is like scheduling a work meeting, and we don't even like those as adults, what kids like that?

It should be based on the child's wants, not on the parents. And the child may not want to call the other parent and there is nothing wrong with that. Maybe it stinks for the parent, but we take bullets for our kids. I think this is one of those bullets.