This co-parenting thing can be tough but here’s the thing I have two S’s 8 and 10, both talk to my WW or I every day without fail via FaceTime but we initiate the communication. I have no communication unless F2F with WW but approach both my boys directly cutting out the need to go through WW. It’s either she calls them or I call them no in-between. Can this be replicated and agreed between both your WW and yourself..?
I understand to a degree the alienation towards your D from WW, initially I felt the same and put it down to unwanted interaction with WW and MYSELF! Once I started to move away from being dependent and just looked at my kids and me the interaction between the boys and their mum got progressively better.
I agree with Vapo that interactions with WW can be “interesting” at times so why bother! I feel this ^^^^ allows me to get off the ride and is working quite well although I have twice fallen for the trap she set and have got involved in R conversations which have NEVER ended in my favor. < Avoid like the plague…
A talk up-front outlining the conditions, timings and the like then adhere to it to the letter never deviate, what she does is hers to own.
Also sit you’re D down and outline the general timings but again if she really wants to talk to WW then of course you must allow it but I suppose my kids doing this every day have lessened the need for a surprise call…
Put the politicians cap on find the right balance and pass this by your WW, get it agreed and continue to move forwards.
Mark.
DR'ing started March 2017
Don't blow the last bridge up from fantasy island, act "as if".
