Dave, sorry, but several things are bothering me about what you've posted.
Quote: When I asked to "cuddle naked" with my W last night, her entire body squirmed like she was sick despite the fact that she said yes. Her coerced "yes" was a result of my "pestering" her over rejected bids.
Sounds to me like the yes was what was violating her integrity. She REALLY wanted to say NO. From my understanding, I would have taken that as a cue to have an open and non-confrontational discussion with her about WHY she wanted to say "no". It would have SEVERELY tested my ability to hold onto myself..
Quote: I had to tell her that "feeling rejected" is now an illegal emotion in AtlantaDave's world...
Maybe so, but I get the sense that you're "forbidding yourself" to feel that emotion instead of working THROUGH it for greater self-understanding...
Quote: You start making bids from a position of "want"...not "need" with no fear of outcome. You then maintain your cool regardless of the situation.
Again, maybe so, but there's a difference between self-soothing and holding onto yourself, versus denying your feelings and forcing yourself to stay cool.
I hope I'm way off base here... maybe it's just that this medium is so limited I can't pick up on the nuances...
