Water off a duck's back East. You are way to accommodating to your W. At some point you will just have to make a decision and cut the bull$hit from your W. She's sending you on so many guilt trips, you must have accumulated about a million of free miles. Let go of this calling W and making your D go through this (and yourself) each and every time. I am willing to bet that it does not make you feel better when she calls you. You are still raw from all of this and yes, you are still in the early days of it all.
Perhaps it would be better to have your time with your D when she's with you and your W's time with your D when she's with your W.
I hate calling my Ex, for any reason. So I do not call her if I don't have to. Ever! And we do get along pretty well and coparent well also. When I have my kids, I do not call my Ex at all, unless something has been forgotten for school or something.
When I was at about your timeline, I do remember it being a very dark time for me. The Ex was baiting me all the time and it took all of my strength to start hanging up on her when the got hissy and not responding to her texts if it did not pertain to the kids or finances. It kinda pissed her off, but in the long run it calmed the whole situation down, esp. giving me the much needed peace. If you come to think about it, there is really nothing to be gained from engaging your W, I am pretty sure you are left feeling like a turd after every interaction.
