SD - Playing "She loves me, she loves me not" like that is only going to lead to frustration, as you found out. In that particular interaction, was there ANY actual reason for you to take her action so personally? I know I would not have asked this last week. However, given the time of day and circumstance, I would think there could be MANY reasons for whether she would press closer, do nothing or move away, most having nothing to do with accepting or rejecting YOU. Your second approach was a lot more direct and adult, but again, given the time of day (and your history together) it's hardly surprising she reacted as she did. Low-desire spouses don't LIKE being reminded that they're low-desire spouses. In particular, to them, the frequency of discussion is like the frequency of sex - they feel like we're always after them, whereas WE feel like we let things go for AGES. I know. Been there, done that.
How do I think you could've handled it? I'm not sure. I know I've learned to avoid anything important in the mornings, at least when just getting up.
