Hoping this can be saved, but having doubts

[reframe]

Had my first call with a DB coach ten days or so ago.
She suggested essentially that I keep doing what I'm doing (Give physical and emotional space) and focus on my friendship.

That I don't pursue, but do continue with physical affection when it is well received.

The last few weeks have been "Better" but it's a slow process.
All indications are that the wife is still planning on moving toward a life without me.

That said, she is acting like she likes me more. She has (of her own choice) help me in a bed a few times, and otherwise been either mildly flirty or physically affectionate a few times.

I'm making a point of not reaching out to her during the day, and she is often initiating contact and checking in to see how I'm doing.

In short, if I am objective, I can convince myself that the process is working, but it's only been a month and its really too soon to tell.
Now I need to not backslide, which is doubly tough when I see glimmers of the woman I love in there.

Still struggling to detach, but I'm starting to have days where I feel like I'll be fine with our without her, and that if she wants a R going forward things will need to be different.