Another question I had was about DBing itself. I know that DBing helps focus on yourself and build self esteem. A lot here have said that it is not about reconciliation.
What exactly is your question?
My opinion is this. You ultimately have no control over with you reconcile or not. I feel like judging your success based on that is a fool's errand. If you take this time and opportunity to become an incredible woman and mother and friend and partner, why should you feel bad about it because H is an idiot?
So, yes, this site is focused on rebuilding the LBS that comes here, because that is what you have control over!
And remember this....it also happens to be the best chance that you have for reconciling anyway. It's like:
So, we focus on step 1 and step 2 because if you jump to step 3, you are in line for future failure anyway. While doing that, the rules and guidelines are there to help you keep the path for step 3 clear.
I know that it stinks now. Its ok to be sad. Try your best to keep your chin up and your eyes on the road ahead of you.
