AnotherStander- Thank you for your time, really. I have a dozen of your posts bookmarked and refer to some of them daily! So thanks for being a guide without knowing it.
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She knows she's hurting you and she feels bad for you, that is why she cries and hugs you and gets intimate sometimes. But she still thinks she's doing the right thing.
That makes sense...as much as it can right now. In my head I know its right, but I have a hard time accepting it I guess? I know I need to, and from BD to today I am in much better shape emotionally and being okay. Without DB or your input, I would continue thinking it's her not sure of what she's doing.
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you've NEVER given her the time and space she wants. Sure you've let her go on a getaway here and there, but you've been WAY too up in her business.
You are right. I have recently been telling myself that, "she hasn't even had a chance to miss me". How do you feel about that?
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You have lost who you were. That alpha leader that she was attracted to originally got replaced by a beta homebody. Find yourself again. You're still in there, just come back out of your shell again.
This is absolutely correct. Basically it stands more of a chance if I act like the old old me. Confident, happy, secure, strong...even though I feel the exact opposite. Damn that seems hard to do.
I do know that I need an outlet. I started coaching one of my son's basketball teams and I absolutely love it. It gets me out, active and I feel actually valued. But every night when I get back in the car on the way home... my mind says "oh yeah... your family is still crumbling and there's nothing you can do about it".
