I also agree w/what Mach posted to you the last few days. We can see things that you can't because you are too close to you situation.
I would stay the course. Start a new relationship w/her by being friends and casual dating, i.e., like when you first met her. If she truly means to stay the course for herself, she will do it...time will tell and it is on your side. Use your gift of time wisely and focus on you and your children.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
