Hello to all... i’ve been lurking for a few weeks but ultimately decided to join due to my W moving into her own place on Friday. Mid November my W told me she was unhappy in our marriage, she said she couldn’t explain why she was unhappy, she firmly stated that I have been a good father & husband but that she lmbnilwm.
I pleaded and begged her to work on things with me and she agreed but no less then a week she told me that she was not committed to working on things because she is so unhappy...since then she has become so cold and selfish, she barely spends anytime with our kids, and frequently goes out clubbing with her sister on the weekends.
Before lurking the forums I was trying to do everything possible to make her stay (doing all of the housework-giving her space- buying her gifts) I now see that some of the things I was doing were not helping. I just need some advice on how I should approach this seperation. We cannot even have a lm adult conversation and plan and schedule because my W refuse to speak with me for more then 5 minutes.
I’ve read so many comments about detaching and going dark but how can this be done with kids? Once she moves out I will literally be seeing her everyday because she will be picking up the kids once she gets off work ( he kids are staying with me)
I don’t know what to do and how to approach this situation moving forward.
