She didn't want to call her mom last night. I asked her to please call and she could make it quick. She told some fibs on the phone, and pretended to be tired. She tried to tell her mom "I love you, bye" and her mom basically told her that was unacceptable. Eventually they said bye, she hung up and her mom called her back and said she wasn't being nice to hang up. Ugh. Not the first time I've seen that and I really don't understand. It's like if she doesn't say "I love you" in the correct way ("I love you I love you I love you") her mom gets upset and she's literally not allowed to go.
She was mad at both of us, though she didn't tell her mom that (she DID tell me when I asked her, and it was because she just plain hadn't wanted to call. She shut down on me when I asked why she fibbed, so I left it be). I'm not doing that again, if she doesn't want to talk, that's that. I'll deal with XW rage and the court if it comes to it. I want to communicate this in advance to XW, but realize there's no way to do that without causing even more drama, so it is what it is.
That said, she's been home one day and she's 10x better. She had her special bath last night (blue bath bomb scented like berries and had a necklace toy inside of it) and loved it. She was tired this morning and didn't want to get up (funny scene where I was tickling her feet to get her up) but did ok, was happy, brushed her teeth, just a regular morning. She was also happy to talk to her mom on the way to school.
