When asked (outside of here) what his marital status was, his answer was...
Deliberately not divorced
That is where I see her in this.
Your fear is driving you Gordie...
Kudos to you for recognizing that.
I noticed that the name Jack Three Beans was mentioned above.
I can tell you, that Jack would tell you, to do what is best for you, regardless the outcome of the marriage.
To be the person that you need to be for you, regardless of the marriage.
I can also tell you that when Jack was faced with even stronger elements of renewing his marriage, that he was excited for life outside of it. He wanted her attempts to fail.
I see what is in front of you as being an opportunity to renew Gordie, regardless of the marriage.
THAT is what is most important...
I see this as a touch and go for her...
I see her wanting to dip her toes in the water, to see what it feels like.
What do you want her to see ?
The same Gordie that she wanted to leave ?
Or the new Gordie that is strong and independent, and has these (hopefully) new sets of relationship skills ???
A Gordie who isn't afraid to be alone..
A Gordie that can stand on his own....
A Gordie that she wants to pursue, not just tolerate...
