Tim, You've become a great friend and I hear your enthusiasm but I daren't get myself worked up and excited about yet another panacea book. I have kind of taken a fall lately. SuperDave doesn’t feel too super at the moment so he's just "SD". He thought he was making progress but it was an illusion fuelled by the over eager consumption of psychobabble. One partner gains a head full of ideas but the other partner remains at the same low level of activity. The enthusiasm of the one causes barriers and resistance in the other. Actually that is not entirely fair. I suggested she try your quiz and sent her an email of all of my answers and my score (19). She told me she scored 26. Initially I was pleased that she had done the quiz but now I am consumed by the fact that she scored higher than me meaning I please her even less than she pleases me… I tried to get her to go through the answers with me so I could learn where I am going wrong but she was not prepared to do that. This morning in bed I felt compelled to give her a cuddle and although I am trying to resist these urges so as not to overcrowd her I did cuddle her and gently massage her and told her how much I love her. It was nice and I felt she thought it nice too. I said something about wanting to do better at making her happy and she got cross saying that I always spoil things. I want to do the right thing but I’m at a loss to know how at the moment. If I had someone who cuddled me and told me she loves me would I feel pressured and irritable too? SD
